Bracing for Impact
Speaking on the theme Impact at Speaker Slam®'s online competition in Sep 21, 2022, Charis Santillie took the stage with a five minute story.
Transcript
it was 1994 the Summer I Turned 19 and we were celebrating my dad's 50th birthday with a hot air balloon ride it was a hot day 107 degrees but we were so excited we went anyway and it was a beautiful ride and then something went terribly wrong when we came in for the landing the pilot knew we were coming in too fast and told us Hold On Tight we're gonna hit hard the balloon basket hit the ground way too hard and violently bounced my dad directed each of us to a corner for safety I remember seeing him try to hold on to the side of
the basket because there weren't enough corners in an instant we went from a magical experience to bracing for impact the next time we hit the ground dad was thrown out and a rope got wrapped around his ankle I remember looking over the edge and seeing him suspended in the air hanging upside down below us he was dragged the length of a football field through rows of corn and alfalfa I was screaming hysterical and felt completely out of control the next thing I knew we were on the ground racing over to Dad who was face down and not moving when they turned him over his face
was battered and clods of dirt were shoved up his nose he was conscious still alive but his body was lifeless our eyes made contact and to calm my fear the first thing he said to me was you should see the other guy this Crash Landing left my dad with a broken neck me with a broken heart and my mom an alcoholic with my dad paralyzed everything changed spinning out of control and needing to avoid my feelings I managed my internal crisis by staying ridiculously busy making me feel safe and giving me the illusion of control before this accident I had an idyllic childhood as my
parents achieved the American dream they built a gourmet pasta business from scratch that started in our kitchen and within seven years they had 40 employees they won Washington State small business of the year and even flew to DC to receive their award in the Rose Garden from then President Bush inspired by my high achieving parents I also became a high achiever in high school I was valedictorian class president voted most artistic and most likely to succeed but this accident flipped that world upside down when I came home for visits from college I found bottles of alcohol my mom had stashed away I couldn't get through
a single visit without multiple calls to my therapist to help me navigate the hurricane of emotions that continued to flood me my dad was the one who fell out of the balloon yet my family my entire family was falling apart my dad's loss of Mobility was the first in a series of losses my parents lost everything their business their home and their pride my mom spent decades drinking to numb her pain until Thanksgiving of 2013 when her liver failed and we lost her too the prior year at a business conference after telling my story to a complete stranger with the same name as my father
he serendipitously responded Charis I understand your dad being paralyzed for nearly 20 years but why are you paralyzed at that moment something literally cracked open inside me the next day I happened to meet a life coach who would help me peel back my protective layers I had to learn to trust myself and the world I had to learn how to convince my body and my brain that we could relax we don't need to stay afraid and keep bracing for impact over the next 10 years I threw myself into everything personal development and finally found calm and inner peace the accident became the Catalyst that led
me into a journey of dramatic healing and my inspiration to become a life coach I know I'm not the only one who has avoided feeling my feelings by staying busy we all face challenges whether it's with love with loss or with life and all of us have ways we keep protecting and bracing ourselves many of us are emotionally paralyzed yet it is possible to redirect the impact of Our rough Landings into a Force for good we can absolutely flip the script on our stories and instead of bracing for impact we can all start making an impact
Transcript generated from the recording and lightly cleaned. Some names and wording may differ from the spoken speech.