Speaker Slam® Alumni

Candace Burkart

Anger Release Coach

@iridescence_transformation

About

Candace Burkart

I specialize in working with the subconscious mind to clear blocks, unhealthy habits, and limiting beliefs and release repressed or stuck emotions and painful old stories that can hold people back and make them sick.

On Stage

2 Speeches at Speaker Slam®

Impact · 2022

Things Are Best Left Unsaid

Sep 21, 2022Online competition

Speaking on the theme Impact at Speaker Slam®'s online competition in Sep 21, 2022, Candace Burkart took the stage with a five minute story.

Transcript

foreign what the hell were you thinking Candace how could you say that crap on the internet those words hit me in the stomach that was not the reaction I had expected the night before I had made top 10 in an international speaking competition I was so excited I was on cloud nine the next morning I raced to my computer I was excited to see what my family and friends had to say course they'd be congratulating me it was such a great speech as I started to read the messages my eyes filled with tears and my heart sank Candace what were you thinking how could you

say those things what will people think as I continued reading the messages from the people that I thought would be supporting me the common theme was Candace these things are best left on set best left unsaid for who see back in June on this very stage I shared the painful story of my childhood something that I've been hiding from for over 40 years my mom left me when I was two years old now I don't remember that moment but I do remember a lifetime of feeling abandoned and rejected her court-ordered visits began four years later and those years were even worse they were filled with

physical and emotional abuse like the never-ending beatings because I didn't fold the towels right or vacuum to her standards and the many other innocent mistakes a child makes there is also the sexual abuse at the hands of her boyfriend he started out as my protector against all of her abuse and when he became my predator that was more than any seven-year-old should ever have to bear this was a difficult subject for me to talk about however I felt in my whole body that it had to come out it was eating me alive after that speech though I was so proud of myself I finally have

the courage to speak up and speak about the impact my child had had on me I was able to heal to close that chapter of my life without being scared of the backlash and abuse that would take place I felt like I had stepped into my power but the days following that speech they were filled with rejection and pain from some of my closest family members I saw the looks of disappointment and hurt on their faces but why why were they mad why were they upset my speech was truly a tribute to Miss Daisy my grandmother who had raised me who had given me security

and love during a very dark period in my life Maybe they knew and they didn't have the courage to speak up and now they felt guilty maybe they didn't want to believe what I had to say because now they would have to accept responsibility that their suspicions were correct Maybe just maybe my truth was too uncomfortable and embarrassing for them to hear I'm not gonna lie their reactions hurt me made me angry actually because once again I felt like I was being shut down silence for speaking up and speaking my truth but I won't be silenced not this time is keeping up others comfortable and

protected more important than my healing is there Pride more important than my truth is my abuser's reputation more important than my self-preservation no hell no but what I do know to be true it was all worth it I received so many messages from others thanking me for having the courage to speak about my childhood and the impact it had on my life by speaking my truth I was able to make an impact on others that also suffered in silence I was able to give voice to the voiceless and I allowed others to bring their feelings to the surface just by sharing my painful truth my

story my voice I made an impact we all have the opportunity to use our voices to make an impact let's all keep speaking up and speaking our truth let's stop silencing ourselves because when we put our truth first we Inspire others around us and we actually give them permission to do the same and by doing this we can make the impact that we were meant to because in the end you don't get to silence the truth

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Healing · 2022

Miss Daisy

Jun 2022Online competition

Speaking on the theme Healing at Speaker Slam®'s online competition in Jun 2022, Candace Burkart took the stage with a five minute story.

Transcript

i was 10 years old and i was competing at the gene norman skating competition i was wearing my favorite purple skating dress that miss daisy bought for me i was raised by my grandma and most of my dresses needed to be sewn this one is my own it was unique as i was getting ready for my turn to go on ice i could feel the other kids snickering behind me there she was miss daisy gray hair and all she was standing beside me she was picking up my dress my tights she was making my making sure my panties weren't showing i would move she's like

you get doc for these things i was so embarrassed because i was the only kid that had their grandma helping them everyone else had their mom when i was two years old my mom left us she left me i don't remember that moment but i do remember a lifetime of feeling abandoned and rejected her court-ordered visits began four years later and those years were even worse they were filled with physical and emotional abuse and the sexual abuse at the hands of her boyfriend he started out as my protector against all my mother's abuse and when he became my predator that was more than any seven-year-old

should ever have to bear miss daisy was my rock she taught me to never give up she made every moment special and i can remember one of my at one of my birthday parties she was playing the spoon race and racing with me and you know where you have to do the run with the egg miss daisy was an integral part of my life back in 2005 after my divorce my son and i had just moved into our first apartment together and we received a dragonfly a dragonfly wind chime from miss daisy we decided to hang it in our living room that dragonfly wind chime

was the start of our new life in her later years she had medical problems but that didn't stop her from coming over to my place on her scooter every afternoon to have coffee with me in my backyard and just like that on january 7 2017 at 505 am i lost the one person who held me up my entire life hearing the phone call about miss daisy's death brought me to my knees how would i live without her my grandmother's death cracked me open she held all the secrets to my childhood and her death meant that i was absolutely on my own and i may never

truly understand what happened to me over the next few months i would hit rock bottom it was as though my all the pain from my childhood would come flooding over me without the protective barrier of miss daisy and as a result i was diagnosed with depression after telling my boss off and not this sad crying depression no the angry hated everybody [ __ ] life depression and i was immediately put on antidepressants i didn't want to be on medication for the rest of my life so i started a healing journey i started with energy healing and enlp with avalon it has allowed me to uncover

my past at just the right time when my unconscious is ready to reveal it to me just like ms daisy in a peaceful loving way back in the spring of 2018 i began to see dragonflies everywhere especially in my backyard i discovered the dragonflies are angels that have come down from heaven to visit they symbolize transformation and self-realization and in that moment i knew that even in her death miss daisy was there supporting and acknowledging my my recovery and my growth what i've learned is that we need to trust the signs around us we need to take action and the more action that we take

to heal the more things that are going to open up for us trust in that know that you are loved and supported you don't need a huge support system you just need a couple of true cheerleaders who won't leave your side no matter what today i'm grateful to be honoring my cheerleader the woman who took me in when i was abandoned who loved me when i felt unloved and who supports me and stands by my self-healing and love thank you

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