Kady Romagnuolo

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I can't believe you all said my last name so beautifully first of all I was not expecting that it's the number one thing that nobody gets right it has a whole bunch of letters in it that are really not how you say it and it's kind of like lasagna so I always like to say it really is just Roman yo Low Like You Only Live Once so I think I got the name I was supposed to get way before I ever know that I needed it sitting in a conference just like this one five years ago I was a mess I had no coaching company

I was struggling with depression and I was one million dollars in debt my husband was so torn off about our personal life circumstances and how hard we had work to sink into a whole of what we really didn't want that I was terrified to leave the house most days I was worried that if I returned and I say if because some days I wanted to run away that if I returned he wouldn't be there and not because he left and it was too much for him but because he would actually choose to take himself out of this life experience with me the thing was people

had no idea and all they knew of me was that I was a successful real estate broker on the outside I was hustling hustling hustling every day I was everywhere doing everything that I needed to do I was making money but I hated every moment of it I was making money for all the wrong reasons we had this big beautiful house that dreams were made of that I thought was the thing that I needed to feel like I had made it but instead it sucked the life out of not only myself but my partner in life my soul mate and he kept going as best

he could but his body was breaking down and nobody knew what was wrong or going on with him I didn't tell anybody that I was driving home from client appointments and crying in my car all the way home I could barely look at myself in the mirror at that point in my life but on the outside I was fantastic I would show up with a smile on my face I would pretend everything was perfect in my life my hair used to be really tight and pulled back back then I used to wear only black never ever in a dress and every layer that I could

find to try and hide what I didn't even know I was trying to hide me at the core of it so five years ago something happened that when I look back now was an incredible miracle a very simple moment where I couldn't choose to get out of going to a conference I had tried for the last 10 years of my career to get out of going out of every single networking event that I was invited to I was the queen of excuses I'm too busy who's going to take care of my clients I have a big beautiful home to take care of who's going to

do that the truth was I had so much Social Anxiety that I couldn't even sit in a room like this not be on stage sit in a room like this I was so worried that I would be discovered for the fraud that I thought that I was on paper I made six figures I had a big home I had a beautiful husband and I say beautiful because he's Italian it's where I get my last name from and oh my goodness this man if he's watching ever which he never watches any of my things this is the one to watch but he was waiting for me

at home in depression and the more and more I lived that life and pretended everything was fine the more the universe said to me this is not what we're doing here girl and I started to have a systematic breakdown to every goal I was trying to achieve you want a big house okay you can have it but that's not really where your soul is leading you in this lifetime to experience so have it for a moment but it's not going to feel so good make the money but in the job that wasn't really what you were supposed to be doing and I know that you're

trying to hear us but we're going to keep coming back with problem after problem after problem until you listen so that conference was all expenses paid in Niagara Falls three-day event for top producers the one place where I felt like the biggest idiot because I thought everybody there in that room was on this big pedestal they were perfect and amazing and had this beautiful life whereas really I was sitting in the room with them and was exactly the same so what was actually different why was I a fraud it turns out that my subconscious mind had been trying to get my attention to see that

my social anxiety was actually because I was doing the thing that wasn't my purpose in life there was elements of it that I encompassed within the work that I do today the business savvy part of who I am but it didn't hold the magic so I found myself at that event talking to a group of trainers and I had tried to get out of like the big room where everything was going on and I snuck out to a breakout session and in that breakout session with might I add the amazing Avalon empowerment trainers who our sponsors here today they don't know I'm going to say

this right now this is just truth they changed my lives because in that breakout session I learned that what was going on at the core of me was trying to surface for a reason and I started my journey in becoming an NLP practitioner I thought I could logically figure out how to communicate better because that was my problem apparently communicating it wasn't the problem but it led me one step to the next to where I am today and in that big beautiful home as I went home sitting there one night my husband upstairs still having the problems that we're having my life hadn't changed yet

as I had done all of my practitioner trainings I felt like I knew what the problems were but I still was kind of stuck in a lot of my circumstances there was something that was missing so one night I found myself quietly sneaking out one of the side doors and walking out into the middle of the forest we had this waterfront property that there was nobody around for miles and I would stare up into the sky just thinking I'm just gonna you know take a moment here for me but in those moments the moon appeared for me first and it must have been a full

moon thinking back why I just noticed the Brilliance of this thing in the sky for me and in the moment where I actually truly made connection to this gorgeous thing in the sky I broke down I cried to her like I had never cried to anybody else I stopped pretending that I had everything together in truth I thought nobody was listening I thought I could make a fool out of myself for a minute here and let go of all of the tears I had pretending that I didn't have inside of me because she as I like to call her was the only one who didn't

ask anything of me it was the only presence in my life that didn't require me to work harder to do something else to show up to keep it together to be the one that was The Rock in the situation she just let me be so I found myself out there with her most nights and I would notice her sort of changing and shifting and some nights she didn't look the same but she was still always there waiting for me and I found myself more and more drawn into what are these Cycles what is it that's happening here with this Moon why am I so obsessed

with pouring my heart out to her and it turns out that there are some incredible phases that this big beautiful thing in the sky goes through each and every month and there's this incredible influence on our energy as we shift through these phases ourselves so the one thing I learned in standing out there with the moon was the thing that I hadn't yet addressed was not The Logical side of everything I needed to learn about myself it was my energy it was this elephant in the room that I took with me that never seemed to change until I realized it wasn't about pretending to be

something that I'm not learning another skill it was more about understanding how I was showing up and what I was doing in certain times so I started going to Full Moon meditations at first and I was like okay this is kind of weird but I'm really liking this you know we're sitting there and then I just got so deep into the moment of meditation one day that I realized This Is My Jam like whatever this Moon thing is this has been calling me my entire life this is the missing piece so now I literally live my life by moon phases there's four primary phases that

are used to allow myself to open up to new experiences to follow my calling to allow myself to take calculated risks and to also be able to tell what's going to happen at the end of those calculated risks it's the Wu and wooing all of my future business that people don't realize is actually not that woo after all so the four steps you can absolutely use in your life and business and I'll tell you a secret today that we're actually sitting in an incredible energy right now of adjustments so sometimes feedback is the one thing we need most that we really don't want to listen

to I know for myself I'd been getting feedback for years that said hey like it's time to make a difference here A change in your life it's time to do something else but it didn't listen so if you're able to actually focus on for a very short time in your life a couple of days maybe up to a week realizing this particular timing right now actually supports me in taking calculated decisions on what I need to change in my life in my business and looking at what it is that I need to actually do to move me into a new phase because a cool thing

happens in about a week from now where we actually set this beautiful foundation for magic in all of our lives and this will happen for you too that if you look at where are you getting these nudges to make some adjustments in your life you're getting some amazing tools and resources today to take advantage of when you start implementing and integrating that what's going to happen next week is all of a sudden you're going to start getting these creative ideas and you just got this beautiful array before me here with Darius who showed how to really capture that creativity next week is all about the

creativity when you're able to tap into your sense of self what's important to you and how you feel in that creative Zone the next week after that we shift phases again you can use this beautiful moon as your guide because she's actually a picture in the sky that's like a clock that turns on these natural cycles and constantly moves us through this flow and that week after is all about taking the action on the thing that you've been crafting and creating now if you can focus on only that for a week instead of all the overwhelming things in life I'm going to take action on

the thing that's really close to my heart that popped up from last week that I'm creative about all of a sudden it becomes easier to do what you need to do the next week after that remember how I said you'll know exactly what's going to come next like no other thing you've ever seen in terms of Miracles all of a sudden you will get information the following week about what is getting in the way you showed up you took action most people if you've got a heartbeat will have something that makes them feel a certain way about the action that they've taken so use that

time period and that week after as the full moon phase to realize what is coming up to the surface your climax of energy that's allowing for you to release what's getting in the way because I promise you opportunities will show up energetically for you here and there to move through these Cycles to allow yourself to achieve the thing that you want with Grace and ease to actually achieve the passion in your heart before the money and move through the blocks that you didn't realize sometimes were there by tapping into that subconscious information through these phases so I've used this to write best-selling books create coaching

programs and most importantly create transformation in my own life so that I no longer suffer with social anxiety I can't say that I never get nervous right you all are beautiful and amazing out there and if I didn't tell you that I was not nervous I never get nervous I have no anxiety then that would be a lie and that's not authentic or what anybody needs to hear but allowing myself to show up through those feelings makes the difference every day so allow yourself to do the thing you didn't realize you could do where is your heart pulling you to and let go of the

things that you didn't realize were in the way listen to that feedback this week and come and find me afterwards because I have a lot more magic for you as well

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i didn't know how much i missed this until a flood of memories hit me the other day i was on stage in grade six and i had just sang my first solo at a musical theater production and it was my turn to take center stage and take a bow now at this time i was so convinced that i was going to be the next mariah carey singing around the world and that i would be a big star one day so there i stood in front of the entire audience and the announcer says and what's your name to which i confidently replied mariah i was so

caught up embodying my hero that i accidentally said the wrong name i was so embarrassed that i swiftly shuffled off stage almost not hearing the laughter behind me my heart was beating so fast it was all i could hear this was the first blow to my sweet little spirit and my self-esteem at 13 years old i was all cued up again to sing for my grandparents 50th wedding anniversary they had rented a hall and there i stood in front of all of my family and friends on stage again the music started and this time instead of just saying the wrong name i had no words

at all i was so mortified i ran off stage yet again this time it was the very last time that i would ever perform and in an instant i had let the love of my life music vanish out of my dreams a few years ago we started building our dream property my husband and i and last year as we really started to dive into this beautiful landscape of limestone and crystal clear waters we uncovered a secret there under mounds of human garbage all of a sudden revealed was a huge stone stage i walked closer to it and said rob do you know what that is

he turned to me and he said it's your stage i didn't even want to say it out loud at that point because i had no idea what i would do on that stage i was still terrified at the thought of singing there's so many things we don't allow ourselves to experience out of fear of trying what if i suck what if it wasn't meant to be i've tried to reconcile these thoughts for so many years with no avail and the longer i didn't do the only thing that has ever truly brought me joy the more i attuned to the energy of fear breaking up with

fear is the hardest yet single most impactful thing that anyone can do in their life it's done in small moments where your heart is beating so fast you're not sure if the words will even come out so as i stand here and i'm not sure if the words will come out my heart is beating so fast and i'm preparing for this speech a few weeks ago and i placed my hand to my heart and i said what is the one thing i need to share the most that will help me grow the most do what scares you most i heard to which i replied fly

me to the moon let me play among the stars let me see what spring is like on jupiter and mars in other words please be true thank you for helping me break up with fear tonight you

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